WARRIOR OF THE UNICORN
"The warrior of the light believes. Because he has the certainty which his thought can change his life, his life starts to change. All those which believe know that."
[Handbook of the Warrior of the Light - Paulo COELHO]
Knight armour and wallet dress "Unicorn". Chamanic Mask with Gold feather.
Gabrielle Lys. February 25, 2008.
We will still dream
With our secrecies with our treasures
We will find a sky
With our paradises without end
With the life as with the death
["Ladyboy" - INDOCHINE]
Gabrielle Lys August 2007.
"Do you know
the doors of the evening
Which are crying inside girls
Eyes which shine ?"
[Les portes du soir - Indochine]
Crepe blouse with sleeves. Matching skirt with chiffon layers.
Gabrielle Lys. February 5, 2011.
Man in autumn: long skirt in velvet color bordeaux, brown boots out of leather, wool sweater color green hunter, waistcoat teases color dark bordeaux. Gabrielle Lys 2005.
To dare the skirt, it is to develop a beautiful interiority.
"If I differ from you, far from injuring you, I increase you." [ Saint-Exupéry ]
I found this very beautiful interview of Saverio Tomasella which I publish here with the agreement of the author. It can be useful to each one among you who write to me not to dare the skirt.
Interview of Saverio Tomasella. Psychoanalyst and author "to make peace with oneself" - (Eyrolles edition)
Which difficulties meet people who must assume a "difference"?
The fields of the differences is infinite. One can be too small, too large, too thin, too large. But also eccentric, marginal, night-bird, or to like to wear the skirt... From the point of view of the psychological mechanisms, one can say that the child who arrives at the world has a need inconcient to be recognized by his environment. Subjected to the social standards of a group (his family, his neighbors, the school), he will do everything unconsciously, to adhere to the values of this group.
What happen if a human being is discovered artist in a family where they hate that, or is manual in a intellectual family ?
he will not feel with the height of this request of harmonization and will live a conflict. From there, two scénarii are possible. Maybe, he meets a person (a grandmother, a friend, a teacher...) who carries it, which say to him "would be what you are". Then there, it is practically gained. In spite of the mockeries or comments, he will be able to be based on this word of the other. Maybe, he does not meet a support...
But what does it occur if, the most frequent case, he does not cross this support on his road?
A conflict between the ideal of the group and his reality (what he is able to bring) will settle in him. This conflict causes suffering. While growing, this faintness can evolve in two manners. Either it will push him to saying "Dash it!", to become a little rebellious or creative. we find a lot of people engaged in this category: trade unionists, artists, politicians. Maybe, he will induce a fold on oneself which can lead to despair or depression...
Are there common springs to the people who voluntarily choose a certain marginality?
We observe recurring diagrams. In closing families (rigid vestimentary, professional, of behavior codes), children feel with narrow, not recognized. Some will react by making a marginal choice. All rather than to conform to the family model. They will be tramp rather than insurance agent, travelling acrobat rather than doctor, or completely eccentric rather than assembled collet. It is a choice of survival which can save them and become an asset. But contrary, others turn over against them the cruelty of the system. Confronted with a devaluing language, they will become this least that nothing to not repudiate the system. The "difference" is then in the self-destruction or the negation of oneself. Painful.
Can Prear which process the difference become a richness?
In a general way, crossed of suffering, small or large, makes mature, makes more human. Different, I must face to mockeries, with the rejection, with the comments... My heart is obliged to be reinforced. I will more quickly become myself rather than on the others. It is a favorable ground to the emergence of a very beautiful interiority which, at the adulthood, will hatch. In the form of a particularly subtle way to like the life, or to like the others, or to approach work, the private life or to express an art; a many painters, singers, novelists result from this vein. It is very important to know that the difference is a chance. The pain which results from this makes it possible to better reach the bottom of its heart.
Which is the council to give to except standards people so that they live their marginality as well as possible?
Seek with deepest of you than there is of more human and express it humanly. The others will be humanized with your contact. Then the difference does not seem one obstacle any more. There is not difference that cannot be assumed and respected. Means of arriving there? That depends on the way of life but impossible to make this course alone. The human being needs another human being to structure himself. This other can be a friend, a love, a person of resource, a spiritual step. Or a therapeutist.
The five rules of an accomplished interiority:
1) To demolish glance of the others.
2) To give value to its own feelings ("what I feel, it is valid, even if it is not in conformity")
3) To transform its resentments into personal thoughts (if I smell myself badly, to manage to express it in "I" rather than to leave himself with "my colleague is bitch")
4) To touch his own loneliness ("I cannot be well with the others if I do not accept my loneliness")
5) To enter into contact with different people ("more I riches my pallet, more I accept my difference")
The site is a success thanks to you all. Thank you for your expressions of sympathy in the golden
and ideological support of members. Thank you also with those which write personal messages to me. They suit me right to the heart and push me to advance always further.
After timid beginnings, the dress for man makes his appearance in the stores in autumn 2012.
Gabrielle Lys. May 2007.
"Mysterious passage. Strange place where we can be when, freed of the contingencies of our sex, we rise over the constraints of a pitifully bipolar world." [Nath-Sakura]
"Nothing is given to us once for all. Nothing is inevitable. We do not have either to undergo or to make undergo what we are. The role of transgenres consists in showing that there are passages, between the sexes, between the identities, between the existences. [...] We are boatmen, at the same moment smuggled and resistant girls of the shade." [Nath-Sakura, "Dualities", LP Editions, 2006]
Tribute to Nath-Sakura
December 23rd, 2007.
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