DRESS FOR ALL:
Boy out of dress with one evening Gothic in Brussels. Blouse with sleeves semi-long with cut off out of lace. Underskirt out of lace on a short dress in jersey with long-line bra and matched ankle boots.
Gabrielle Lys. Marsh 28th 2008.
With his Borsalino, one could have believed in Al Capone but he wears a skirt in silk muslin on boots out of leather. We are in New York, Winter 2007. The shouldered jacket is in black woollen article.
Gabrielle Lys October 2007.
DRESS OF THE PARADISE:
"My place with the Paradise,
I leave it to you.
I goes down again on Earth.
Sky, I will keep on the dresses in blue satin veil.
I need only them."
Gabrielle Lys November 8th, 2007.
DRESS OF HALLELUJAH:
"Her beauty and the moonlight overthrew you.
She broke your throne
and she cut your hair.
And from your lips
she drew the hallelujah.
"She" wears the dress of the Alleluia. Dress in silk Jersey printed with the hand.
Gabrielle Lys. April 9th 2008.
To dare the skirt, it is to develop a beautiful interiority.
"If I differ from you, far from injuring you, I increase you." [ Saint-Exupéry ]
I found this very beautiful interview of Saverio Tomasella which I publish here with the agreement of the author. It can be useful to each one among you who write to me not to dare the skirt.
Interview of Saverio Tomasella. Psychoanalyst and author "to make peace with oneself" - (Eyrolles edition)
Which difficulties meet people who must assume a "difference"?
The fields of the differences is infinite. One can be too small, too large, too thin, too large. But also eccentric, marginal, night-bird, or to like to wear the skirt... From the point of view of the psychological mechanisms, one can say that the child who arrives at the world has a need inconcient to be recognized by his environment. Subjected to the social standards of a group (his family, his neighbors, the school), he will do everything unconsciously, to adhere to the values of this group.
What happen if a human being is discovered artist in a family where they hate that, or is manual in a intellectual family ?
he will not feel with the height of this request of harmonization and will live a conflict. From there, two scénarii are possible. Maybe, he meets a person (a grandmother, a friend, a teacher...) who carries it, which say to him "would be what you are". Then there, it is practically gained. In spite of the mockeries or comments, he will be able to be based on this word of the other. Maybe, he does not meet a support...
But what does it occur if, the most frequent case, he does not cross this support on his road?
A conflict between the ideal of the group and his reality (what he is able to bring) will settle in him. This conflict causes suffering. While growing, this faintness can evolve in two manners. Either it will push him to saying "Dash it!", to become a little rebellious or creative. we find a lot of people engaged in this category: trade unionists, artists, politicians. Maybe, he will induce a fold on oneself which can lead to despair or depression...
Are there common springs to the people who voluntarily choose a certain marginality?
We observe recurring diagrams. In closing families (rigid vestimentary, professional, of behavior codes), children feel with narrow, not recognized. Some will react by making a marginal choice. All rather than to conform to the family model. They will be tramp rather than insurance agent, travelling acrobat rather than doctor, or completely eccentric rather than assembled collet. It is a choice of survival which can save them and become an asset. But contrary, others turn over against them the cruelty of the system. Confronted with a devaluing language, they will become this least that nothing to not repudiate the system. The "difference" is then in the self-destruction or the negation of oneself. Painful.
Can Prear which process the difference become a richness?
In a general way, crossed of suffering, small or large, makes mature, makes more human. Different, I must face to mockeries, with the rejection, with the comments... My heart is obliged to be reinforced. I will more quickly become myself rather than on the others. It is a favorable ground to the emergence of a very beautiful interiority which, at the adulthood, will hatch. In the form of a particularly subtle way to like the life, or to like the others, or to approach work, the private life or to express an art; a many painters, singers, novelists result from this vein. It is very important to know that the difference is a chance. The pain which results from this makes it possible to better reach the bottom of its heart.
Which is the council to give to except standards people so that they live their marginality as well as possible?
Seek with deepest of you than there is of more human and express it humanly. The others will be humanized with your contact. Then the difference does not seem one obstacle any more. There is not difference that cannot be assumed and respected. Means of arriving there? That depends on the way of life but impossible to make this course alone. The human being needs another human being to structure himself. This other can be a friend, a love, a person of resource, a spiritual step. Or a therapeutist.
The five rules of an accomplished interiority:
1) To demolish glance of the others.
2) To give value to its own feelings ("what I feel, it is valid, even if it is not in conformity")
3) To transform its resentments into personal thoughts (if I smell myself badly, to manage to express it in "I" rather than to leave himself with "my colleague is bitch")
4) To touch his own loneliness ("I cannot be well with the others if I do not accept my loneliness")
5) To enter into contact with different people ("more I riches my pallet, more I accept my difference")
The site is a success thanks to you all. Thank you for your expressions of sympathy in the golden
and ideological support of members. Thank you also with those which write personal messages to me. They suit me right to the heart and push me to advance always further.
The bad boy:
Divided between the good and the evil. (Colors of M.) Gabrielle Lys July 2006.
THE MAN WITH THE BOWLER HAT:
Man with mask out of dress. Directly inspired of the the Stanley Kubrick movie 'Eyes Wide Shut'...
Gabrielle Lys. September 2007.
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Bravo pour ce magnifique site
Dommage que les articles sur la jupe se fassent rares.
Je me suis mis à porter la jupe de temps en temps depuis un an. Au début difficile de s'aventurer en ville tant la crainte des regards est grande. Mais en fait, cela passe assez bien. Cependant, j'ai l'impression d'être bien seul et j'aimerais bien que d'autres osent et que ce vêtement puisse ainsi être porté plus facilement.
Je précise que je suis un jeune senior et c'est par plaisir que je porte la jupe. Liberté de mouvement, originalité, confort.
Espérant que tout cela évolue vite...
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