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RECOGNIZED BEING: There is nothing to understand And that passes the intruder Who will be not able to await Because I am only to hear them silences and when I tremble Me, I am your different If we were not from here We would be the infinite one [Tu es mon autre - Lara Fabian]  The recognized being wears thigh boots  of Gabrielle Lys and a dress wallet out of wool with short sleeves and bordered in bottom by silk muslin of Saris. Gabrielle Lys November 13th, 2007.
RECOGNIZED BEING:
"There is nothing to understand
And that passes the intruder
Who will be not able to await
Because I am only to hear them
silences and when I tremble
Me, I am your different
If we were not from here
We would be the infinite one"
[Tu es mon autre - Lara Fabian]

The recognized being wears thigh boots of Gabrielle Lys and a dress wallet out of wool with short sleeves and bordered in bottom by silk muslin of Saris. Gabrielle Lys
November 13th, 2007.


THE PHANTOM FACE: I don't know your face no more Or feel your touch that I adore It's just a place I'm looking for [We might as well be strangers - Keane]  She wears on her white skin a dress in 3 thicknesses and a hat in translucent silk. Gabrielle Lys. November 19th, 2008.
THE PHANTOM FACE:
"I don't know your face no more
Or feel your touch that I adore
It's just a place I'm looking for"
[We might as well be strangers - Keane]

She wears on her white skin a dress in 3 thicknesses and a hat in translucent silk.
Gabrielle Lys. November 19th, 2008.


THE SUN KING: Elegance of a belgian cone of the grunge world... The Sun king reinvents the man with each one of his appearances. Boots and leather dress surmounted by a false collar Sun color gold. Gabrielle Lys. September 2007.
THE SUN KING:
Elegance of a belgian cone of the grunge world... The "Sun king" reinvents the man with each one of his appearances. Boots and leather dress surmounted by a false collar "Sun" color gold.
Gabrielle Lys. September 2007.


2012: In 2012, the blue hair makes fury in the male fashion. The student wears a sweat with asymmetrical collar, a scarf and a miniskirt. Theses clothes are in large mesh. He has high leather boots. Gabrielle Lys Marsh 2006.
2012:
In 2012, the blue hair makes fury in the male fashion. The student wears a sweat with asymmetrical collar, a scarf and a miniskirt. Theses clothes are in large mesh. He has high leather boots. Gabrielle Lys Marsh 2006.



To dare the skirt, it is to develop a beautiful interiority.

"If I differ from you, far from injuring you, I increase you." [ Saint-Exupéry ]

dot  I found this very beautiful interview of Saverio Tomasella which I publish here with the agreement of the author. It can be useful to each one among you who write to me not to dare the skirt.
Gabrielle Lys
Sources :
Interview of Saverio Tomasella. Psychoanalyst and author "to make peace with oneself" - (Eyrolles edition)


dot  Which difficulties meet people who must assume a "difference"?

The fields of the differences is infinite. One can be too small, too large, too thin, too large. But also eccentric, marginal, night-bird, or to like to wear the skirt... From the point of view of the psychological mechanisms, one can say that the child who arrives at the world has a need inconcient to be recognized by his environment. Subjected to the social standards of a group (his family, his neighbors, the school), he will do everything unconsciously, to adhere to the values of this group.


dot  What happen if a human being is discovered artist in a family where they hate that, or is manual in a intellectual family ?

he will not feel with the height of this request of harmonization and will live a conflict. From there, two scénarii are possible. Maybe, he meets a person (a grandmother, a friend, a teacher...) who carries it, which say to him "would be what you are". Then there, it is practically gained. In spite of the mockeries or comments, he will be able to be based on this word of the other. Maybe, he does not meet a support...


dot  But what does it occur if, the most frequent case, he does not cross this support on his road?

A conflict between the ideal of the group and his reality (what he is able to bring) will settle in him. This conflict causes suffering. While growing, this faintness can evolve in two manners. Either it will push him to saying "Dash it!", to become a little rebellious or creative. we find a lot of people engaged in this category: trade unionists, artists, politicians. Maybe, he will induce a fold on oneself which can lead to despair or depression...


dot  Are there common springs to the people who voluntarily choose a certain marginality?

We observe recurring diagrams. In closing families (rigid vestimentary, professional, of behavior codes), children feel with narrow, not recognized. Some will react by making a marginal choice. All rather than to conform to the family model. They will be tramp rather than insurance agent, travelling acrobat rather than doctor, or completely eccentric rather than assembled collet. It is a choice of survival which can save them and become an asset. But contrary, others turn over against them the cruelty of the system. Confronted with a devaluing language, they will become this least that nothing to not repudiate the system. The "difference" is then in the self-destruction or the negation of oneself. Painful.


dot  Can Prear which process the difference become a richness?

In a general way, crossed of suffering, small or large, makes mature, makes more human. Different, I must face to mockeries, with the rejection, with the comments... My heart is obliged to be reinforced. I will more quickly become myself rather than on the others. It is a favorable ground to the emergence of a very beautiful interiority which, at the adulthood, will hatch. In the form of a particularly subtle way to like the life, or to like the others, or to approach work, the private life or to express an art; a many painters, singers, novelists result from this vein. It is very important to know that the difference is a chance. The pain which results from this makes it possible to better reach the bottom of its heart.


dot  Which is the council to give to except standards people so that they live their marginality as well as possible?

Seek with deepest of you than there is of more human and express it humanly. The others will be humanized with your contact. Then the difference does not seem one obstacle any more. There is not difference that cannot be assumed and respected. Means of arriving there? That depends on the way of life but impossible to make this course alone. The human being needs another human being to structure himself. This other can be a friend, a love, a person of resource, a spiritual step. Or a therapeutist.


The five rules of an accomplished interiority:

1) To demolish glance of the others.

2) To give value to its own feelings ("what I feel, it is valid, even if it is not in conformity")

3) To transform its resentments into personal thoughts (if I smell myself badly, to manage to express it in "I" rather than to leave himself with "my colleague is bitch")

4) To touch his own loneliness ("I cannot be well with the others if I do not accept my loneliness")

5) To enter into contact with different people ("more I riches my pallet, more I accept my difference")



The site is a success thanks to you all. Thank you for your expressions of sympathy in the golden book and ideological support of members. Thank you also with those which write personal messages to me. They suit me right to the heart and push me to advance always further.
Gabrielle Lys

GIRL OR BOY ?: Leather perfecto with broad cap. Dress and boots out of leather. Gabrielle Lys. May 24th, 2009.
GIRL OR BOY ?:
Leather perfecto with broad cap. Dress and boots out of leather.
Gabrielle Lys. May 24th, 2009.


The man with the hat: boots out of black leather, sacking miniskirt, black Tee-shirt, waistcoat in young cow, hat 1900, fun bangle. Gabrielle Lys 2005.
The man with the hat: boots out of black leather, sacking miniskirt, black Tee-shirt, waistcoat in young cow, hat 1900, fun bangle. Gabrielle Lys 2005.

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