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The sentinel: MissingSign tee-shirt, leather skirt, girdle out of leather, socks out of wool and short ankle boots Arche. Gabrielle Lys 2005.
The sentinel:
MissingSign tee-shirt, leather skirt, girdle out of leather, socks out of wool and short ankle boots Arche.
Gabrielle Lys 2005.


PURE STYLE : Marilyn coat with black gloves. Gabrielle Lys. April 27 2011.
PURE STYLE :
Marilyn coat with black gloves.
Gabrielle Lys. April 27 2011.


CANDYMAN: Sweets to my sweet. [CandyMan movie]  Most terrible of the urban legends... CandyMan masks his burns by a leather coat and hood. Gabrielle Lys. May 23th, 2009.
CANDYMAN:
"Sweets to my sweet".
["CandyMan" movie]

Most terrible of the urban legends... CandyMan masks his burns by a leather coat and hood.
Gabrielle Lys. May 23th, 2009.


The Kia: New York - Summer 2010. Jo walks his hyena in Central Park. The Kia, new synthetic semi matter, semi rubber carves skirts and boots in moving circles. Gabrielle Lys. Special Cubism Collection. February 2007.
The Kia:
New York - Summer 2010. Jo walks his hyena in Central Park. The Kia, new synthetic semi matter, semi rubber carves skirts and boots in moving circles.
Gabrielle Lys. Special Cubism Collection. February 2007.



To dare the skirt, it is to develop a beautiful interiority.

"If I differ from you, far from injuring you, I increase you." [ Saint-Exupéry ]

dot  I found this very beautiful interview of Saverio Tomasella which I publish here with the agreement of the author. It can be useful to each one among you who write to me not to dare the skirt.
Gabrielle Lys
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Interview of Saverio Tomasella. Psychoanalyst and author "to make peace with oneself" - (Eyrolles edition)


dot  Which difficulties meet people who must assume a "difference"?

The fields of the differences is infinite. One can be too small, too large, too thin, too large. But also eccentric, marginal, night-bird, or to like to wear the skirt... From the point of view of the psychological mechanisms, one can say that the child who arrives at the world has a need inconcient to be recognized by his environment. Subjected to the social standards of a group (his family, his neighbors, the school), he will do everything unconsciously, to adhere to the values of this group.


dot  What happen if a human being is discovered artist in a family where they hate that, or is manual in a intellectual family ?

he will not feel with the height of this request of harmonization and will live a conflict. From there, two scénarii are possible. Maybe, he meets a person (a grandmother, a friend, a teacher...) who carries it, which say to him "would be what you are". Then there, it is practically gained. In spite of the mockeries or comments, he will be able to be based on this word of the other. Maybe, he does not meet a support...


dot  But what does it occur if, the most frequent case, he does not cross this support on his road?

A conflict between the ideal of the group and his reality (what he is able to bring) will settle in him. This conflict causes suffering. While growing, this faintness can evolve in two manners. Either it will push him to saying "Dash it!", to become a little rebellious or creative. we find a lot of people engaged in this category: trade unionists, artists, politicians. Maybe, he will induce a fold on oneself which can lead to despair or depression...


dot  Are there common springs to the people who voluntarily choose a certain marginality?

We observe recurring diagrams. In closing families (rigid vestimentary, professional, of behavior codes), children feel with narrow, not recognized. Some will react by making a marginal choice. All rather than to conform to the family model. They will be tramp rather than insurance agent, travelling acrobat rather than doctor, or completely eccentric rather than assembled collet. It is a choice of survival which can save them and become an asset. But contrary, others turn over against them the cruelty of the system. Confronted with a devaluing language, they will become this least that nothing to not repudiate the system. The "difference" is then in the self-destruction or the negation of oneself. Painful.


dot  Can Prear which process the difference become a richness?

In a general way, crossed of suffering, small or large, makes mature, makes more human. Different, I must face to mockeries, with the rejection, with the comments... My heart is obliged to be reinforced. I will more quickly become myself rather than on the others. It is a favorable ground to the emergence of a very beautiful interiority which, at the adulthood, will hatch. In the form of a particularly subtle way to like the life, or to like the others, or to approach work, the private life or to express an art; a many painters, singers, novelists result from this vein. It is very important to know that the difference is a chance. The pain which results from this makes it possible to better reach the bottom of its heart.


dot  Which is the council to give to except standards people so that they live their marginality as well as possible?

Seek with deepest of you than there is of more human and express it humanly. The others will be humanized with your contact. Then the difference does not seem one obstacle any more. There is not difference that cannot be assumed and respected. Means of arriving there? That depends on the way of life but impossible to make this course alone. The human being needs another human being to structure himself. This other can be a friend, a love, a person of resource, a spiritual step. Or a therapeutist.


The five rules of an accomplished interiority:

1) To demolish glance of the others.

2) To give value to its own feelings ("what I feel, it is valid, even if it is not in conformity")

3) To transform its resentments into personal thoughts (if I smell myself badly, to manage to express it in "I" rather than to leave himself with "my colleague is bitch")

4) To touch his own loneliness ("I cannot be well with the others if I do not accept my loneliness")

5) To enter into contact with different people ("more I riches my pallet, more I accept my difference")



The site is a success thanks to you all. Thank you for your expressions of sympathy in the golden book and ideological support of members. Thank you also with those which write personal messages to me. They suit me right to the heart and push me to advance always further.
Gabrielle Lys

Printed colors: A few months after the launching of the dress for man, the printed colors make fury in this summer 2013 Gabrielle Lys. July 2007.
Printed colors:
A few months after the launching of the dress for man, the printed colors make fury in this summer 2013
Gabrielle Lys. July 2007.


The man with the hat: boots out of black leather, sacking miniskirt, black Tee-shirt, waistcoat in young cow, hat 1900, fun bangle. Gabrielle Lys 2005.
The man with the hat: boots out of black leather, sacking miniskirt, black Tee-shirt, waistcoat in young cow, hat 1900, fun bangle. Gabrielle Lys 2005.

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Pauline
- L'hay les roses - France -
Mais le symbole plus emblématique de la mode à la garçonne est la coupe de cheveux. Incarnée au cinéma par l’actrice Louise Brook, la coupe courte devient célèbre et est porté par toutes les femmes. Symbole d'émancipation, la coupe courte séduit et s'impose. En 1925, une femme sur trois aurait fait couper ses cheveux. Mais déjà en 1903, Colette arborait la coiffure courte. En mai 1917 Paul Morand écrit : « depuis 3 jours, c’est la mode de porter les cheveux courts. Toutes, elle suivent le mouvement, mené par Mme Letellier et Channel…». Les cheveux sont donc coiffés suivant la mode masculine, sous un chapeau cloche, à haute caloque cylindrique et dont les bords étroits tombent juste au dessus des sourcils. Les frères Antoine et René Rambaud devienne maitre dans l’art de cette coiffure qui fut renommer la coupe à la garçonne.
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Micka Delahaut
- Florennes - Belgique -
Je suis un homme qui depuis enfant a toujours aimé mettre des jupes, robes. Aujourd'hui, mon quotidien est jupes collants talons. je ne me considère pas travesti. Pour l'état civil, je ne suis ni M , ni F mais X
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Jean - Lyon - France - - added 08/02/2016.
Bravo pour ce magnifique site
Dommage que les articles sur la jupe se fassent rares.
Je me suis mis à porter la jupe de temps en temps depuis un an. Au début difficile de s'aventurer en ville tant la crainte des regards est grande. Mais en fait, cela passe assez bien. Cependant, j'ai l'impression d'être bien seul et j'aimerais bien que d'autres osent et que ce vêtement puisse ainsi être porté plus facilement.
Je précise que je suis un jeune senior et c'est par plaisir que je porte la jupe. Liberté de mouvement, originalité, confort.
Espérant que tout cela évolue vite...


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