Like a body in sleep
Transparency of desire
Nonchalance to be it
Gabrielle Lys. November 2006.
There are so many desires, so many dreams which are born from a true suffering,
Which launches you and supports you,
It is your chance, your appetite, your gasoline,
The wound where you will come to draw the force and the impertinence,
Which advances you a little further,
It is your chance, your source, your dissidence,
Always to prove twice as much as the others dormant of evidence,
Your power will be born there...
[C'est ta chance - Jean Jacques Goldman].
Thigh boots Gabrielle Lys. Dress out of jacquard with crystals.
Gabrielle Lys Octobre 2007.
THE MAN WITH A SHORT DRESS:
Sunday, the banks of the channel are places "where to be seen" for the Jet Set of Brussels. A designer of the street Etienne Dansart rests along the bank. Short dress with zip fastener on the front, deer boots, sunglasses, earrings out of gold and squared haircut.
Gabrielle Lys. June 2007.
"What we do in our life resounds in eternity."
[Ridley Scott - "Gladiator" movie]
When antiquity influences the fashion of the future... The man carries a cloak with cap in flax on a tunic out of cotton with leggings and light ankle boots.
Gabrielle Lys. July 2007.
look, fashion and regard of oneself.
This article highlights the interaction that there exists between the regard of oneself and importance attached to appearance. Major elements to explain the return of the skirt in male wardrobe.
Regard of oneself.
Regard of oneself, one of the most fundamental dimensions of our personality. It is a discrete and complex phenomenon of which we are not always aware. The expression "Regard of oneself" comes from Latin oestimare, "to evaluate", whose significance is double: at the same time "to determine the value" and "to have an opinion on". The regard of oneself is thus how we see ourself and if we like or not what we see. This glance-judgement which we carry on ourself is important for our psychological balance. When it is positive, it makes it possible to act effectively, to smell ourself well in our skin, to face to the difficulties of the existence. But when it is negative, it generates a number of sufferings and nuisances which come to disturb our life.
The three pillars of the regard of oneself.
To have self-confidence, to be sure of oneself, to be happy with oneself. The terms and the expressions employed in the language to indicate the regard of oneself are large. In fact, each one of them refers to the one of its multiple aspects. Actually, the regard of oneself rests on three "ingredients": Self-confidence, the vision of oneself, the self-love. The good proportioning of each one of these three components is essential with obtaining a harmonious regard of oneself.
It is the most important element. To like does not suffer any condition: we like ourself in spite of our defects, our limits, the failures and the reverses. Simply because a small interior voice says to us that we are worthy of love and respect. This "unconditional" self-love does not depend on our performances. It explains why we can resist to the adversity and to rebuild ourself after a failure. It prevents neither the suffering nor the doubt in the event of difficulties, but it protects from despair.
The self-love depends mainly on the love that our family given to us when we were child and of "emotional foods" which were given to us. The deficiencies of regard of oneself which take their source on this level are undoubtedly most difficult to catch up with. we finds them in what the psychiatrists call "the personality disorders", i.e. at subjects of which manner of being with others growth them to conflicts or failures.
To like oneself is well the base of the regard of oneself, its major component and close friend. However, it is never easy to distinguish at a person, beyond her social mask, the exact degree of the like oneself.
2. The vision of oneself.
It is the glance which we carry on ourself. This evaluation, founded or not, that we make about our qualities and defects, is the second pillar of the regard of oneself. It is not a question of self-knowledge; but the conviction that we have to be carrying qualities or defects, potentialities or limitations. Subjectivity thus holds the beautiful role; its observation is difficult, and its comprehension is delicate. This is why, a complexed person - whose regard of oneself is often low - will leave often perplexed the persons which do not perceive the defects of which it is believed reached.
Positive, the vision of oneself is an interior force which enables us to wait our hour in spite of the adversity. In other cases, a limited vision of oneself will push the subject with the dependence of others: we can establish satisfactory relations with others, but we limit oneself to the role of follower, we passe only on ways already explored by others. There is evil to build and bring to a successful conclusion personal projects.
The self-confidence applies especially to our acts. To be trustful, it is to think that we are able to act in an adequate way in important situations. Contrary to the self-love and, especially, to the vision of oneself, the self-confidence is not very difficult to identify. It is enough for that to regularly attend a person, to observe how she behaves in new or unforeseen situations, when there is a stake, or if she is subjected to difficulties in the realization of what she undertook. The self-confidence can thus seem less fundamental than the self-love or the vision of oneself, of which it would be a consequence. It is partly true, but its role seems to us paramount insofar as the regard of oneself needs acts to be maintained or developed: small successes each day are necessary to our psychological balance, just like food and oxygen is necessary to our body. Not to fear the unknown or the adversity testifies to a good degree of self-confidence.
The balance of the regard of oneself.
These three components of the regard of oneself generally maintain the bonds of interdependence: the self-love (to respect ourself what it occurs, to listen our needs and our aspirations) incontestably facilitates a positive vision of oneself (to believe in our capacities, to project ourself in the future) which, in its turn, the self-confidence influences favorably (to act without excessive fear of the failure and judgement of others). The regard of oneself is not given once for all. It is a mobile dimension of our personality. More or less high, more or less stable, it needs to be regularly fed.
Mirror, my beautiful mirror...
The mirror is always in our daily environment: bathrooms and halls of our residences, stores, halls of building, rooms of gymnastics, rear view mirrors of our cars... Our image to us is reflected tens of time per day. It was not always as follows. In fact, until the 17th century, the mirrors were very rare. The gallery of the Ices of the castle of Versailles was at the time an exceptional sign of power and richness. Correctly likely to translate the extraordinary regard of oneself of the king Louis XIV. But the democratization of the mirror dates only from the 19th century. Since, the mirror became to us familiar and intimate. Which is the role of this invading presence of our image, to which it is added photograph and movies, in the increasing pressures on the image of the body ? This one is increasingly present in publicity: perfumes, beauty products, fashion. As for the women, but with about thirty years of delay, men are subjected to a bombardment of images of ideal bodies on the display panels, the magazines, televised publicities.
Look, fashion and estimate oneself.
Appearances influence much the regard of oneself. They make that we feel developed or devalued. Our clothing is not only any more used to protect us from the cold or hiding our nudity. How do you feel after having bought a beautiful clothing, which suits you to charm ? Undoubtedly you smell yourselves well... Your regard of oneself was some increased. The image that you have of yourself will be doped.
For those which like the fashion, the game consists in supervising the tendencies and the windows in order to be always in the wind, the objective is to carry what will go, but before everyone, and especially stop to carry it when everyone followed... The fashion, especially if we preceded it, is a means of increasing our regard of oneself. The objective is to dissociate others, while being the first to adopt new ways of dressing ourself. Thus developed by their statute of pioneers, they will be ready to still face the glances and critics of people with the old style. For others, to follow the fashion will be a way of not decreasing its regard of oneself. The motivation is not a profit of regard of oneself, but the avoidance of a loss. They adopt a fashion only when it spreads, in order to not be judged negatively on an obsolete appearance. Of course, at the stage where "everyone starts to start to it", the innovators for a long time gave up the fashion in question: it would not bring anything any more to their regard oneself.
In the Western countries, the way simplest and fastest to improve its image, it is often to buy clothing. Would the fashion exist if people did not have problems of regard of oneself? How to differently explain the success of the "claws", which consists to pay a clothing more expensive if it has the logo in the wind.
"L'estime de soi : S'aimer pour mieux vivre avec les autres".
Christophe André et François Lelord, Edition Odile Jacob.
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The captain: high boots out of black leather, wool leggings, deer miniskirt, white plain Tee-shirt, short deer anthracite jacket and red velvet hat. Gabrielle Lys 2005.
GIRL OR BOY ?:
Leather perfecto with broad cap. Dress and boots out of leather.
Gabrielle Lys. May 24th, 2009.
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Mais le symbole plus emblématique de la mode à la garçonne est la coupe de cheveux. Incarnée au cinéma par l’actrice Louise Brook, la coupe courte devient célèbre et est porté par toutes les femmes. Symbole d'émancipation, la coupe courte séduit et s'impose. En 1925, une femme sur trois aurait fait couper ses cheveux. Mais déjà en 1903, Colette arborait la coiffure courte. En mai 1917 Paul Morand écrit : « depuis 3 jours, c’est la mode de porter les cheveux courts. Toutes, elle suivent le mouvement, mené par Mme Letellier et Channel…». Les cheveux sont donc coiffés suivant la mode masculine, sous un chapeau cloche, à haute caloque cylindrique et dont les bords étroits tombent juste au dessus des sourcils. Les frères Antoine et René Rambaud devienne maitre dans l’art de cette coiffure qui fut renommer la coupe à la garçonne.
17/07/2017 - 08h03
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Je porte les jupes Hyatus depuis 3 ans, pour le sport et la ville.
Autour dr moi, les femmes y sont favorables et certains hommes sont prés à oser le port de la jupe
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Bravo pour ce magnifique site
Dommage que les articles sur la jupe se fassent rares.
Je me suis mis à porter la jupe de temps en temps depuis un an. Au début difficile de s'aventurer en ville tant la crainte des regards est grande. Mais en fait, cela passe assez bien. Cependant, j'ai l'impression d'être bien seul et j'aimerais bien que d'autres osent et que ce vêtement puisse ainsi être porté plus facilement.
Je précise que je suis un jeune senior et c'est par plaisir que je porte la jupe. Liberté de mouvement, originalité, confort.
Espérant que tout cela évolue vite...
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